What an interesting headline, coming from someone who is generally happy most of the time. But, what about those times when happiness is just neither in your vocabulary nor anywhere close to an emotion you’re feeling? How do you get to the place where you can honestly say that you’re “happy?” If you’re on the brink of extreme depression or suicide, to “act like” you feel good or happy seems ridiculous and virtually impossible. You feel alone, as if no one can understand where you’re coming from or if life is even worth living anymore. The frustration of just merely existing, seeming powerless and stuck, leading to no where, has begun to be a burden that seems to be no longer in your strength to carry.

This is rock bottom for many people who then have to turn to professionals and medicine to still function. There are even some who unfortunately actually attempt to take their lives with success and others without success. Albeit, to answer the initial question, what is a person to do when they have reached the end of the rope and now want to go to sleep and never wake up again? How does this person make an attempt at happiness? There’s really one main step and everything else stems from this:

First and foremost, the “end” and detrimental thinking needs to cease, and immediately be replaced with breathing. Take deep, long and slow breaths, just paying attention only to the breath– not tears, not how bad you feel, not how terrible everything is around you. Allow none of the thoughts that were sending you spiraling in your own demise to come in at this point. Stabilize yourself and emotions simply by breathing. When you’re in a heightened emotional state, we oftentimes forget to breathe! Breathing in a slow, controlled and focused manner slows down the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, allowing them to return to a more natural and balanced state. Breathing also carries oxygen through the bloodstream to the brain and other vital organs. It improves circulation, digestion and helps to eliminate toxins and wastes from the blood. Stabilizing your emotions with breathing then becomes your launching pad to invoke better feeling thoughts.

Once you have relaxed, allow not the negative thoughts to return. Instead, think of something that makes you smile. This could be a baby, your pet, your favorite song, a nice bath. Anything that will send the muscles in your face in an upward turn, thus increasing the level of serotonin, a natural uplifting hormone, secreted into your blood stream. You begin to feel a little better even if only for a fraction of a second.

Continue to think of better thoughts such as all of the things and people that you’re grateful for– not making comparisons or juxtapositions of “but”statements. Think of all of the good that is in your life at that very moment–everything worthwhile and gift-like. Take account of what you can appreciate about life at the moment and bask in that feeling. This will begin to give you a sense of hope. Turn your gratitude into love for yourself and love for your Higher-Self. Ask your Higher-Self to guide you into the light and into a better place, where you can experience peace in the “now” and rest your heart.

You’ve reached a nicer place to be existing now, all starting from breathing and slowing down your thought process, and then replacing them with thoughts that feel better. Following this process takes only a matter of minutes, and it can get you back on track to living your Divine Purpose instead of trying to cut it short at the hand of stress and disappointment. You are in control of your life. You’re in control of your emotions and your thoughts, and in every situation, circumstance and instance, you have a chance to choose what your actions are going to be. Instead of choosing death, choose life and breathe.


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