Do you ever find yourself making the following statements: “That’s just life. You’ve gotta face reality. It’s just not realistic to think like that. Take your head out of clouds. It is what it is.” To many, these statements are all too familiar, sounding off as simple excuses or verbal limitations for why life isn’t the way they want it to be. It’s sometimes worn as a statement of grandeur or maturity when you can face the “reality” of a situation and deal with it. Other times, it’s seen as a limitation that they have no control over but should at least be aware of so they can make better choices with their limited options. Since this is an article that focuses on the Law of Attraction and this topic, let’s view these two different perspectives: the realist and the optimist.

We’ve been introduced to the realist’s vantage point. They see the world that is directly in front of them. They resonate and only deal with the physical and tangible aspects of life. They’re imaginative, but quickly rationalize that what their imagination is creating behind the scenes can’t possibly manifest because to them, undertaking the task may seem too “unrealistic.” They focus on the limitations and the barriers. They spend too much time analyzing disadvantages, traps and snares and in turn make excuses for why nothing works, what’s wrong with everything and how messed up everything is. When asked why they feel this way, they respond with the universal answer, “That’s the reality of the situation.”
The Law of Attraction in this case, is still operating. It does not stop working because someone is choosing to focus on what’s in front of them. Instead, it responds to what they’re paying the most attention to and feeling the most strongly about. If they’re griping that they can’t get out of their work environment, constantly talking about how bad everything is, the Law of Attraction makes sure that the realist keeps experiencing these same types of situations. They just keep getting more of the same and feel like the world is on their shoulders. This is where there is some danger in continuing to only see life through the eyes of a realist. What do you think would happen if they decided to change their focal point? What if they decided to view life through the lenses of an optimist?

The optimist’s viewpoint is that of what they want to see, and not looking directly or intently at what’s directly in front of them. They’re more in tuned with their imagination with excitement because to them, that’s a preview of what is getting ready to take place in their lives. They may spend considerable time daydreaming and documenting their goals, aspirations and plans. They look for the good in every experience as well as positive lessons. They look at every obstacle as an opportunity instead of a barrier. They face their fears with compassion and move through them. Life is an unfolding process that rewards them with seeing their visions come alive.

The Law of Attraction helps to facilitate the realization of their focus. Because they are paying most attention to what they do want instead of what they don’t want, that’s what they are vibrating with and in turn, it will manifest. Of course, the realist, who still doesn’t really understand or care to learn about the Law of Attraction, may say that the optimist’s view is dangerous because they aren’t facing reality. The optimist’s truth is that they are facing the reality that only they want to see. There in lies the difference.

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4 Responses to Law of Attraction: Is Facing Reality Dangerous?

  1. TF says:

    I like the essence of this article. There is one perspective that I think is not centered properly (from my perspective) with regards to the realist. The realist is not always a pessimist. Instead, I would like to propose that the realist sees the full topology of the situation (i.e., The list the risks and the reward in order to strategize appropriately). An individual who is truly solely optimistic, may be optimistic, but that pure optimism does not provide a road-map to success, just as ones pessimism will not provide a barrier for every entry point.

    I believe that the identification of issues and the realization that possibilities can arise from the issues is how one can ultimately add great value. Planning is important. We teach children that planning for success is better than betting on the lottery. I can be optimistic that I will win a fortune, but if I plan to do the work to earn the fortune, I believe the odds are in the favor of those who plan and work. However, this does not imply that there are never any lucky ones for whom the light will shine brightly upon. It’s true, good things happen to people. Sometimes we cannot explain how things work out.

    By definition:
    Achievement: “something accomplished, especially by superior ability, special effort, great courage, etc.”

    The thing I like to focus on here is the ability, and the effort. If people are optomistic daydreamers, and there is little effort applied to the vision or goal, that is just as dangerous as a realist (or pessimist) who is limited by every risk that they are paralyzed and unable to move.

    Sometimes I have witnessed the “Optimists” simply look for change in a way that is without their input. This implies that the world around them is the problem, and they will keep moving until they find something they fit within perfectly. I challenge this thought as when one sees issues, it is working through the issues to create the change. When we apply ourselves (effort) to a task, and put in the work, the achievements always follow. IN fact, even if we fail along the way, the learning from the failure promotes new opportunities for future success.

    – Keep up the good work.

  2. Megan says:

    Thank you for your reply! Very well articulated, and I agree. The fine line between planning and action still trip up some people who are just now coming to grips with how this whole “Law of Attraction thing” works.

    Understanding our role in the entire attraction process should make it less complex, but we’re not simple creatures. We’d love to relinquish our power to anything outside of us, but the opposite is what should happen.

    We think, we believe, we plan, we act, we adjust. When we don’t act, we miss the feedback required for continuing to make significant strides forward.

    Thanks again for your reply!


  3. Diarra says:

    With my thought changes over time, my perspectives have slightly migrated from simply, straight “law of attraction” to more of an “in the moment” groove with the additive of LOA. With my “in the moment” concentrations, I have to look at reality for what it is, what is happening, right now, in my world at this moment. Accepting what it is, the is-ness of it. Then, after acceptance, can I intermingle the visualization (law of attraction) of how I would like the situation to be, my desires based on my truths and by focusing on what I need to do in this now, to create the change for the next moment…The upcoming now. However my “optimistic” visualization could not be in full if the “reality” of what I want changed (the now) has not been fully processed & digested.

    • Megan says:

      Yes, accepting “is-ness” facilitates surrender and more allowing instead of pushing against “what is” for something different. It’s all still working as long as focusing on the now doesn’t distract you from where you ultimately want to be. Just look at the amazing ways people with various adversities and challenges faced them, accepted them and still moved forward. There are a couple of examples I can think of right off the bat: Bethany Hamilton, the young lady who the movie “Soul Surfer” was made about… The Classical orchestra created in the war-torn by an native ex-pilot who literally started with nothing except the idea. (, the double amputee who competed in the Olympics this year, Oscar Pistorius…

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